The Nature of Losing

Human loss can be summed up in two broad categories 

1. Expected loss
2. Unexpected loss

Which is greater? 
Which is more consequential? 
Which is more painful? 

My understanding of the matter is that it is - like most layered phenomena - situational. 


Despite taking the philosophical approach to the matter, a comforting thought that has edged its way through is this: 

You only lose when you accept that you have. Another day, another moment, another opportunity. 

If we believe can shift our mindset and view our failures as not shortcomings, but as experiences (even though admitting that they are those has a negative, acceptance of i-am-not-worthy-so-im-making-an-excuse vibe), then we can try to move forward in life by adopting a growth mindset and pushing through. 

From the nature of my losses, and I have had many in my short life, I have learned that life is anything but a fantasy, it might read out like one, it might sound like one if the narrator is a gifted enough orator. But to truly embody the principles of momentum, of consistent growth and progress, that elevated mindset must be applied to everyday, mundane, boring situations that make up most of our daily lives. 

Learning to separate the emotions from the work, keeping a bigger picture in mind, having goals and visions and wanting to prove yourself to yourself, will allow you to wipe the dust, and reveal the extortionary in the ordinary. 


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